The fourth element of healing intimacy is allowance. What is allowance? Is it going with the flow or is it perceiving everything from an interesting point of view?
Going with the flow is one of those tricky phrases that over time people have taken and used in ways to justify not choosing. You may hear people say “It just wasn’t meant to be!” Where is the choice in that?
Interesting point of view is perceiving everything with out aligning and agreeing or resiting and reacting to some thing or some one.
Most of the time we are not in allowance of our bodies especially if it is in disease or in pain. We have bought a point of view that pain or disease is wrong, that something is wrong. This takes a huge amount of energy to hold in place and is not honoring to the body. Ulimately we make our bodies wrong for pain or disease.
And then their are some of us that make ourselves wrong too, we have an awareness like “Oh my god I have been judging the hell out of my body all these years” and then we beat our selves up for doing this creating even more judgement.
Would you be willing to be in allowance of your body? Would you be willing to be in allowance of you?
If you would like to say yes to these questions then you are half way there. If you want to say yes, but a but comes up or a no, then you are still half way there, because now you are aware of the judgements you can start the process of making different choices. There are tools to assist you in this, all you have to do is ask.
If a No comes up, If you don’t want more choice, if you want to hold on to all your points of view and make your body wrong. That is totally okay with me, I am in total allowance of what ever you choose and when ever you choose it.
I had one client that started to get really sick again and she choose to ignore me, I did not react to it or align with it, I choose to be in total allowance of her. I could see the pain and suffering she was in and I knew that if I tried help her I would either align with her point of view that she was wrong and in pain or she would have resisted my help. That same lady is now totally cured. In the end she had the vulnerability to ask a question. In my allowance of her and her choices she stepped in to a new level of vulnerability and trust that she had never experienced before and in that her body started to heal
How does it get any better than that?