The fourth element of healing: allowance

The fourth element of healing intimacy is allowance. What is allowance? Is it going with the flow or is it perceiving everything from an interesting point of view?

Going with the flow is one of those tricky phrases that over time people have taken and used in ways to justify not choosing. You may hear people say “It just wasn’t meant to be!” Where is the choice in that?

Interesting point of view is perceiving everything with out aligning and agreeing or resiting and reacting to some thing or some one.

Most of the time we are not in allowance of our bodies especially if it is in disease or in pain. We have bought a point of view that pain or disease is wrong, that something is wrong. This takes a huge amount of energy to hold in place and is not honoring to the body. Ulimately we make our bodies wrong for pain or disease.

And then their are some of us that make ourselves wrong too, we have an awareness like “Oh my god I have been judging the hell out of my body all these years” and then we beat our selves up for doing this creating even more judgement.

Would you be willing to be in allowance of your body? Would you be willing to be in allowance of you?

If you would like to say yes to these questions then you are half way there. If you want to say yes, but a but comes up or a no, then you are still half way there, because now you are aware of the judgements you can start the process of making different choices. There are tools to assist you in this, all you have to do is ask.

If a No comes up, If you don’t want more choice, if you want to hold on to all your points of view and make your body wrong. That is totally okay with me, I am in total allowance of what ever you choose and when ever you choose it.

I had one client that started to get really sick again and she choose to ignore me, I did not react to it or align with it, I choose to be in total allowance of her. I could see the pain and suffering she was in and I knew that if I tried help her I would either align with her point of view that she was wrong and in pain or she would have resisted my help. That same lady is now totally cured. In the end she had the vulnerability to ask a question. In my allowance of her and her choices she stepped in to a new level of vulnerability and trust that she had never experienced before and in that her body started to heal

How does it get any better than that?

Third element of Healing is vulnerability

I hear you all quaking in your boots as I mention the word vulnerability. And that is because most people have idendified this term with suffering. Most people have had some sort of experience where they have been vulnerable and then been shot to pieces when they were.

Like the time you you stepped up in class and tried something new and¬† the teacher tore you to shreds, or when you opened your heart to another and they made you suffer…

That’s the point of creation, where we decided that vulnerability equates to not nice things happening. The not nice things happening then becomes our justification and reason for not being vulnerable.

To deal with this we start to build a wall from our decision never to be vulnerable again and we stop being vulnerable with ourselves and our bodies.

Vulnerability is not seen in this reality, by that I mean our society, as valuable. It is often misidentified as being weak. If you buy this point of view, this too will create more walls to being vulnerable. And as vulnerability is part of natural beingness you start to cut your self off from that.

What if vulnerability actually had a power to it, what if you were to be so vulnerable with your body that you had no barriers to it. You would then feel everything the body could gift to you.

Next time an ant crawls over you, instead of flicking it off, allow it to walk across your naked skin, feel it intensely. Vulnerability is being like the open wound with out any cover on it. You can feel it intensely. Have you ever noticed how a wound can heal when you are vulnerable enough to allow it to be what it requires?

This does not mean you should go round opening you heart to strangers, or not put a dressing on a wound, what it means is to be vulnerable enough¬† to ask questions to yourself that you don’t want to hear the answers to, to feel your body intensely and to acknowledge where you have been less than nice to it.

I have some neat processes and tools to assist in this, but you have to be willing to ask the question.

What else is possible?